The Reality Of Looking Younger Than You Are

When you look younger than you are

Venting time!

Have you ever had anything about yourself that you wish you could change? 

For women it could be something simple like changing that mousey brown hair to some crazy but somehow completely in the norm, mermaid blue. While men on the other hand may just want to join the hordes of gym dwelling tanks on the journey to thicker biceps. Just saying, no matter how small or big it may be, there’s always something that people desire to change about themselves. I, on the other hand, am both blessed and cursed with genes that make me look ridiculously younger than I am.
I know what you’re thinking. What’s wrong with that? Right?

Well, to be frank, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. Imagine looking like a 20 something year old when you are almost 40. It’s great, trust me my mom has lived that life! This is all besides the point though. Rather than changing myself, I would love to change the reactions received from people around me. For those of you who can relate to the eternal baby face issue, I’m sure you’ve had some of these amusing, but equally annoying and awkward experiences and interactions.

1.       Complete disbelief. When they learn your age, and go into some weird form of shocked disbelief. This is usually that phase when they decide that they can’t trust that fact that you obviously know what year you were born, so they need physical proof, like your ID or birth certificate. 

Like really?
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2.       Unnecessary Sharing. When they FINALLY feel safe enough to believe that you are in fact the age that you have been claiming for the last 20 minutes or so, they always feel compelled to share the fact with everyone else. ‘Oh my god, can you believe she’s 28? She looks like she’s 16!’ Sound familiar? Yes?  Seriously do they really need to announce your age to the world? Is it that much of a shocker?

3.       Misguided Assumptions.  Let’s take a moment to consider that in Asian culture age is an important factor in everyday life and they actually bother to ask how old you are before addressing you.  Yet, everywhere else they just assume that because you look young then you must be a little girl. This shouldn’t be so aggravating but, it gets extremely awkward when people you know for a fact are younger than you address you using terms like ‘Sweetie’ or honey.  It’s even worse when teens think it’s OK to hit on you.

4.       Getting Carded. OK, so I’m not trying to be obvious here, of course people getting carded is a normal thing, but I’ve personally been in situations at clubs and bars, when not only did I get carded, they still refused to believe that my ID was real despite the use of a black light and took my ID to ‘the back’ to be double checked and they STILL asked for additional ID.  If you’re like me NEVER leave your ID home.

5.       Wishing. I can’t tell you how often I hear people wishing they could look this young. Like they really understand all the issues that come with it. Not that it’s a bad thing. It’s just really annoying hearing comments that start off like “If I looked like you…”

This is me now at 28  by the way:

At the end of the day, all I ask is that people stop over reacting and get over it!

What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below!


  1. I don't have those problems I look far younger than I am but to be carded or get over reactions is not fully the case but I feel your pain its worst the other way around though 19 year olds who look 30 something that's hilarious

  2. Every time someone asks me for my age, they always believe that I am younger than what i am or older. Even when i tell them my actual age, the next time i see them they forget and ask again.

  3. Oh my Gosh, yes! Asian culture, unfortunately, does put a little more emphasis on age. It is almost as if you earn the right to speak up more if you're 'older.'

  4. I used to get asked for ID up until I was 30 and loved it! Take it as a compliment. You will miss it when it no longer happens

  5. i am 34 years old and people still refuse to believe it! i was at the store with my mom one day and she asked me if i needed a pack of cigarettes (bad habit, i know. i'm trying to quit) because i hadn't gotten my paycheck yet and the cashier refused to sell them to my mother because she refused to believe i was quite literally old enough to have an 18 year old kid myself. i ended up having to walk all the way across the parking lot to the car to get my ID (which i didn't take in because i wasn't planning on buying anything). needless to say, the cashier was shocked and then went on to tell me how lucky i am to look so young. i get you. it gets annoying after a while.

    the one that really gets me is the older men who hit on you believing you are younger than you are and then act all surprised when you tell them that you are, in fact, to old to even be in school.

  6. haha I got carded at a bar a few weeks ago. I was going there with my HUSBAND. Yep I'm 33 and married... They asked us both for our ID. In Australia so we need to be over 18 to enter a bar. Would we really be a married couple under 18 ? I think that's less likely!

  7. I always have this struggle in my life. When I go to a restaurant and I order a glass of wine for example they ask me for my id.. are you serious? I'm 28 and they keep asking me for my id lol!! But I think is really good looking younger than you are because when you gonna be in your 40's for example you will look as 30! Not bad at all.